Perhaps the company you work for underwent significant changes that affected the way you now have to perform your work. Or somehow you’ve lost faith in the company and its management team.
Through my work, I am privy to all kinds of reasons why people get stuck. They’re all varied and valid. Each reason is unique to the individual. And at a macro level, they fall into known patterns.
But as to why they remain stuck? That’s another story altogether.
The stories that people tell others and themselves about why they haven’t left that lousy job or dead-end career? Those are interesting too. Lots of legitimate reasons why they haven’t made the move yet.
But peel the onion layers and you’ll see, it all boils down to one thing: Belief.
Here’s one thing I’ve learned after being a career pivot mentor for the last five years.
Every individual who successfully makes a career move starts out believing two things: (1) that things can get better, and (2) that he can make it so.
For people who remain stuck in unhappy career situations, you can trace every valid reason, every rational excuse, every real fear, back to that statement.
Let’s break this down.
Many people believe deep down, that what they have today may, in fact, be, as good as it gets.
That as unhappy as they may be where they are today, they’re unlikely to get any happier elsewhere. Work is always going to be this way. It’s always going to be an uphill climb. And they have as much chance of finding fulfillment at work as they have of winning the Powerball jackpot.
The other side of that continuum is how they view their ability to make things better for themselves.
All of us have some form of limiting beliefs. For some, those limiting beliefs are sadly so entrenched, clouding their ability to see what they’re capable of doing. They underestimate their skills, they ignore their talents. They think that no one else (other than the wretched company/job that they’re in) would see the value they can bring to the table. So they stay on, remaining stuck and unfulfilled.
Finding a way to counterbalance these beliefs
If you find yourself languishing in a job you hate, or unable to move away from a career that’s really not going anywhere, ask yourself these two questions:
1. What do I believe relative to the possibility of things getting better?
2. What do I believe relative to my ability to make things better for me?
Then I would ask you to challenge your beliefs.
Look around your life for real examples in your life that run contrary to these beliefs. When have things actually gotten better after you’ve made a change (it doesn’t matter what kind of change)?
Think of situations where things got better as a result of an action you took. Recall the circumstances and how confident (or not) you felt as you were taking those steps.
It’s easy to forget those times when you’ve effectively taken control of a situation, especially when you feel anxious about an impending change.
When looking to improve your situation, it’s vital that you don’t forget your ability to make things better for yourself.
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