Does your inner critic drive you or get you down? Do you swing back and forth between being overly self-critical and giving yourself way too many passes?
Highlights of Episode 55
- The 3 voices (Monger, BFF, and Biggest Fan) that are in our heads
- Why and when does the “Monger” talk loudest
- How to recognize the “BFF” and your “Biggest Fan”
- What you can do when the Monger has taken over
- The typical mistake we make when we attempt self-compassion
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In this episode, I’m joined by professional counselor, Nancy Jane Smith, who wrote the book The Happier Approach: Be Kind to Yourself, Feel Happier and Still Accomplish Your Goals.
In the book, Nancy explores the voice in our head that talks the loudest. She calls this voice the Monger and it tricks us into beating ourselves up to become a better version of ourselves.
Nancy says that we all have this Monger voice in our heads—only that for some of us, this voice talks louder than for others. And also at certain times in our lives, we may find the Monger tries to take over more than usual.
Nancy and I talk about the happier approach, a simple way to quiet our Mongers, be kinder to ourselves, while also achieving our goals and intentions. We also talk about the mistake we make when we attempt self-compassion, and the more productive approach we can take instead.
Mentioned in this episode
- Surround yourself with people creating thriving careers in the new economy. Get your insider’s pass to AndThriving
- Find out more about Nancy Jane Smith and the Happier Approach Mentoring Community here
- Nancy’s book recommendation: America, The Anxious by Ruth Whippman
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