On this first episode for the year, I’m taking a moment to reflect on the three things that I’m most proud of in 2018 and the three things that I plan to focus on in 2019.
I didn’t achieve all my goals in 2018.
But I’m not feeling dejected and “like a failure” as I would have felt before.
A couple of years ago, I learned to change my relationship with goal-setting.
I still shoot for the moon and set big hairy audacious goals. I still like knowing that I’m swinging for the fences.
But whereas before, the focus was on the metrics and milestones, now my focus is on the changes that I’m implementing in pursuit of the goals.
I now look at goals as setting the rules for the game I’m playing. My goals send the signal to my brain about whether I’m playing big or playing safe or playing small.
Most importantly, my goals direct the kind of changes I want to make in my process, in my work, and in my life.
Sure, I’d much rather hit all my goals with flying colors. And yes, there is a tinge of disappointment there.
But I’m not overly upset like I would have been years ago. Because I now recognize the changes and improvements that I’ve made in my life.
So, even though I didn’t hit all the figures or the milestones I was going after, I know that I’m in a much better place because of the changes I’ve made.
Three Things I’m Most Proud of in 2018
1. Celebrating the 1st anniversary of the Second Breaks Podcast
June 2018 was the first anniversary of the podcast.
I’ve mentioned it before, this podcast is one of the things I’m most proud of because I’ve had to overcome loads of fear and limiting beliefs to make this happen.
That I’ve sustained this weekly podcast for over a year with 76 episodes now, is a big deal for me. It’s my clear example of when I’ve felt the fear and gone ahead with it anyway.
I’m now looking forward to celebrating the next milestone for SBP: its’ first 100 episodes. I want to make it better and more relevant to you. And I plan on focusing on growing the podcast listenership and expanding its reach to spread the message even more.
2. Creation of the AndThriving network
Early in 2018, I launched something I’ve only dreamed of — a professional network called AndThriving.
It’s likely that you didn’t hear about AndThriving. I didn’t talk about it much — really, not at all — because I was feeling the self-doubt that usually comes whenever I’m attempting something big and out of my comfort zone.
I’m proud of it nonetheless because I actually launched it. I created and told people, albeit only a few, about my vision for it. AndThriving exists in reality and not just in my head, even though I’m still beset with self-doubt.
One thing I’m really happy about is that after feeling brave enough to chat about my vision with a few more people over the Fall, I’ve gotten clearer on the direction for AndThriving. So I ended 2018 better positioned and guided about my 2019 goals for this network. More about this when I talk about my 2019 focus.
3. Getting out of my comfort zone
Bet you can now hear the theme of 2018.🙂
Looking back, it was a year of me realizing I was stuck in my comfort zone and that I needed and wanted to do something about that. I won’t grow unless I got brave enough to stretch beyond my comfort zone.
In 2018, I hosted more live webinars than I’ve ever done before. I’ve also gone “live” on Facebook, something I was terrified of doing. But I’ve done several now and, just like the podcast, it’s not like the fear has disappeared. But I now know I can do it and the sky won’t fall if I made a mistake or forgot my words.
Here’s the thing I really understood midway in 2018. All the things I want to achieve or become lie beyond my comfort zone. I’ll never get to where I want to be unless I get myself comfortable with getting uncomfortable. And my desires for myself and my vision require me to be just a little bit braver.
I have to thank here one friend of mine, in particular, Nicole Karon, who has patiently and graciously and with love, encouraged and pushed and challenged me. Without her, I might still be debating about leaving my comfort zone.
3 Things I’ll be Focusing on in 2019
1. Taking my health more seriously than ever
I had surgery towards the end of 2017. I can feel the age creeping in and more than ever, I recognize the importance of taking my health seriously.
I’ve always had a New Year resolution or intention of losing weight or getting healthier, as do most people. And this year, I want to do better. Not only because of my weight goals but more importantly because I want to feel better physically and mentally.
For me, this means maintaining my daily walking routines, doing more strength exercises, and eating healthier. I’ve done a good job eating more veggies last year, and I want to improve on that.
I’m also going to get real about my Keto diet. I’ve been dabbling and trying it on the side all year long. In 2019, I want to be serious about it once and for all.
2. Leaning into AndThriving
I mentioned AndThriving earlier, and you may be wondering what the heck is it and why am I leaning into it.
AndThriving is a professional network, a virtual training camp, one-on-one mentoring, and group support — all rolled-into-one.
AndThriving is a huge part of my vision of a world where we all have the opportunity to grow in our work and reach our highest potential.
Although I created AndThriving in 2018, I didn’t really focus on it. I held back because although I was clear and believed in its mission, I wasn’t sure about myself. I wasn’t sure that I was “enough” for this big goal.
But I’m not going to allow my limiting beliefs continue to stop me from pursuing my goal around AndThriving. I feel better positioned now with a more definite set of plans.
So in 2019, I’ll be leaning into this project in a way I’ve not done before. I’m consolidating most of the services and workshops that I do and folding those into AndThriving to provide a more holistic and richer experience for the Thrivers, the members of the network.
In case you’re curious about AndThriving, this here will give you more information. The doors are closed right now, but if you add your name to the waitlist, you’ll be first to hear when we reopen.
3. Expanding on Get Brave Enough
Towards the end of 2018, I started talking — more explicitly — about getting brave enough.
It had always been an implied message, embedded in the work that I do. This past year though, I decided to flag it and name it. I remembered something my mentor used to always tell me: “It doesn’t matter how much you know or how well you plan. If you don’t have the intestinal fortitude to take action, nothing will ever happen.”
I realize this is one of the main issues why so many folks are stuck and unable to follow through on their plans.
Bottom line: Strategies and plans can only get us so far. We have to get brave enough to take action.
So this year, I plan to expand on this point and really hone in on the message. I think there may even be a book in the making. Which will be a good thing because I’ve been itching to get on my next book writing project but haven’t yet found the idea to really sink my teeth into. I think this may be the one.
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