A few weeks ago, a good friend escaped her winter blues and stayed a few days with me in Florida.
I’m fortunate to live near water, and so we spent loads of time under the sun, on boardwalks, or along the docks.
During one of our walks, I told her that I’d always wanted to be like those people I see in pictures all over the internet. You know the ones: where someone is working outside, by the beach or pool-side. Living the life they want to live, working the way they want to work.
I said it in jest. But my friend, she took it seriously.
She said to me, “Well, you can do that now.”
“Yeah, in theory, I can,” I replied.
My friend turned to me and, in that solemn voice that you can’t help but listen earnestly, said, “No Lou, not in theory. In reality. You live 15 minutes away from the beach. The pool is right outside your door, and you live in Florida. You can do that now.”
Just then, it felt like a large brick fell on my head.
I can do that now. Why haven’t I been doing it? What was I waiting for?
So the day after she left, I did just that. I grabbed the laptop, headed to the pool, and worked on my new project to the sounds of splashing water instead of being cooped up in my home office (aka dining room).
Often, we focus on what we don’t have yet before we allow ourselves to do something.
“When I have x, I will do y.”
“As soon as I’m <insert desired state>, I will <insert thing you want to do>.”
That kind of stuff.
I don’t know that we do this intentionally. It’s probably a reflex for many. A way to hide and delay action because well, that’s the scary part, isn’t it?
Maybe, it’s even rational. We believe there to be a dependency on “a” so we don’t do “b” until we got “a” squared away.
While this is true for some things (baking a cake, brain surgery, etc.), it’s less of an issue than we think.
In most cases, we can start chipping away at b even if we haven’t got a safely in our back pocket.
There’s no need to wait until all the ducks are in a row.
Waiting for the perfect moment when everything is sorted out means we’re not seeing what’s right in front of us.
We miss the opportunities we have today, in favor of the ones we could have tomorrow. When we have something else. Or when we get somewhere else. Or become someone else.
But tomorrow isn’t a promise. And all we have is today.
Time to focus on what we can do right now. With what we have. With where we are. With who we are.
The ducks may never get in a row.
It doesn’t matter. Why not start anyway?
What’s on Your Mind
Tell me, what’s one thing that you’ve always said you want to do, one day?
What’s one thing (even a small thing) you can do today or this week that gets that ball rolling?